Topic Library — The Family Side of Addiction (Year 1 Foundations)

School: Minister Destiny Testimony Schools Track: Adult Class: Topic Library — Year 1 (Foundations) Presented by: Minister Destiny Marie Morgan, Muslim Ordained Minister

This lesson is educational information and is not legal advice and not medical advice. Laws and procedures vary by state and by case. If you are in danger right now, call 911. If you need help for substance use — for yourself or for someone you love — call SAMHSA's National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357. This lesson does not diagnose or treat any person.

Before you start

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• This unit is written for the mother, the spouse, the adult child, the friend. The clinical ground lives in the companion units; this unit is about your side of the street: what helps, what harms, and how to stay whole.

The lesson

Part 1. A health condition in the family — what is yours to carry, and what is not

A substance use disorder is a treatable health condition: a person keeps using despite serious harm and finds stopping far harder than deciding alone would suggest. The Addictions unit teaches the condition itself; the Detox, Rehabs, and Inpatient and Outpatient units teach treatment. This unit starts where they end — at your kitchen table.

Three sentences carry it. You did not cause it — the condition grows from the substance, the person's health, and their circumstances, not from a mother's failure. You cannot cure it — love and money cannot perform treatment. You can love the person without feeding the addiction — only the delivery of your love is in question: money, silence, and excuses can become fuel for the condition even when given in pure love. You are a person in this story, not equipment in someone else's.

Part 2. Enabling vs helping — the honest distinction

Enabling shields a person from the natural consequences of use, or supplies the means of use, so the condition continues undisturbed. Helping supports health, safety, or the path to treatment without supplying use or erasing consequences. The test is where an action lands: does it make use easier, or recovery easier?

Enabling looks like this: cash you know, or strongly suspect, becomes drugs or alcohol; a debt connected to use, paid so "it doesn't get worse"; a lie to an employer that your spouse is sick when they are hung over or using; your influence used to make legal trouble disappear. Each is done in love's name — and each removes the pressure that might have pushed the person toward help.

Helping looks like this: a ride to a treatment intake; a meal shared instead of money given; the children watched during a counseling appointment; naloxone kept in the home (Part 4); the 2 a.m. "I want help" call answered and driven, while the call that wants cash goes to voicemail; a door kept open, a wallet kept closed. Unsure which side an action falls on? Ask: would I do this if it could not possibly become a substance — and am I doing it for the person, or to end my own fear?

Part 3. Boundaries that hold — money, housing, babysitting, and vehicles

A boundary is a rule about your own behavior that protects your home, money, children, and health. "I will not give you cash" is a boundary; "you'd better stop using" is a wish. Boundaries work because you can enforce them without the other person's cooperation.

Money: no cash, no use-connected debts paid, no co-signing — support in kind, like groceries or a ride. Housing: who may enter or live in your home, and in what condition — "you are welcome here sober; you may not use here." Babysitting: never with a person who is impaired. Vehicles: never lent to a person who may drive impaired.

State each boundary once, plainly, at a calm moment, and expect it to be tested — testing is the condition checking whether the old door still opens. Hold it the same calm way each time. For shared housing, money, childcare, or a return home after treatment, write a household agreement: who does what, what happens if use resumes, a review date. The Contracts unit teaches written agreements in full.

Part 4. Naloxone in the home — be ready before the worst ten minutes

If opioids are anywhere in your loved one's life, naloxone belongs in your home. Naloxone reverses an opioid overdose by restoring breathing. In Massachusetts anyone can get it at a pharmacy without a personal prescription: the statewide standing order, issued under Mass. Gen. Laws ch. 94C, § 19B, itself serves as the prescription; a pharmacist can dispense a rescue kit and bill insurance including MassHealth; and the Department of Public Health confirms there are no restrictions on who can purchase or receive it.

The Department of Public Health publishes these overdose signs: small, pinpoint pupils; falling asleep or losing consciousness; slow, weak, or no breathing; choking or gurgling sounds; a limp body; cold, clammy skin; discolored lips, nails, or skin. If you see them: call 911. Give naloxone — peel back the package, place the nozzle tip in one nostril until your fingers touch the bottom of the nose, press the plunger firmly. Give rescue breaths if you are able, one every five seconds. No response in two to three minutes? Give a second dose in the other nostril if you have one. Stay, with the person on their side if possible, until help arrives — naloxone wears off sooner than many opioids, so a person who wakes still needs emergency care.

Fear of police must not stop that call. Under the Good Samaritan law, Mass. Gen. Laws ch. 94C, § 34A, a person who in good faith seeks medical assistance for someone experiencing a drug-related overdose — and the person experiencing it — shall not be charged or prosecuted for possession under § 34, or found in violation of probation, pretrial release, or parole conditions, when the evidence came from seeking help — and § 34A confirms a good-faith right to receive, possess, and administer naloxone. Its honest limit: no protection for trafficking, distribution, or possession-with-intent charges.

Part 5. Safety when children are in the home

When children live where a person is struggling, safety is planned, not hoped for. Safe storage first: medicines — especially opioids, sedatives, and prescribed addiction-treatment medication — locked up or stored up, away, and out of sight, as are alcohol and any substances; naloxone stays where a responsible adult can reach it fast. Children also need safe adults — at least two named adults a child can go to or call, who know they hold that role — and a plan in a child's own words: if the grown-up cannot wake up, seems very sick, or you feel scared, go to the safe adult or call 911. Rehearse it like a fire drill. A child is never the monitor of a parent's condition beyond getting help.

About the Department of Children and Families, plainly and without fear-mongering: DCF is the Massachusetts agency charged with protecting children and strengthening families, and the DCF unit teaches its process in depth. The distinction here is factual: a parent's substance use disorder, by itself, is a health condition; neglect is about whether a child's needs are met and the child is safe. Concern turns on impact — impairment while solely responsible for a child, substances within reach, missed care, unsafe people given access — not on the mere fact of a diagnosis or of being in treatment. Treatment, locked storage, and named safe adults are a protective parent's actions.

Part 6. Support for you — your name belongs in the care plan too

Families run on empty and call it loyalty. It is depletion, and it ends with the supporter sick, broke, or gone. Support for you runs alongside your loved one's recovery, starting now — it is not a reward for afterward.

Two fellowships exist for the family side, named factually, without endorsement. Al-Anon Family Groups (al-anon.org) describes itself as a mutual support program for people whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking, whose members share common experiences whether or not that person admits the problem or seeks help. Nar-Anon Family Groups (nar-anon.org) describes itself as a worldwide fellowship for those affected by someone else's addiction — a Twelve-Step program whose only membership requirement is a problem of addiction in a relative or friend, with no dues or fees. Both are peer fellowships, not professional treatment.

Public doors stand open too. The Massachusetts Bureau of Substance Addiction Services (BSAS), in the Department of Public Health, oversees the statewide system of prevention, intervention, treatment, and recovery support services for individuals, families, and communities. The Massachusetts Substance Use Helpline (helplineMA.org) is the statewide, public, free and confidential resource for finding those services; its specialists help callers — including callers worried about someone else — understand their options. Nationally, SAMHSA's National Helpline, 1-800-662-4357, gives free, confidential treatment referrals to individuals and families, 24 hours a day.

Part 7. When the worst happens — grief, and the truth that you did enough

Some families do everything in this unit and still lose the person. A school that tells the truth must print that sentence, because a family that believes a death proves they failed will carry a false verdict for life. Part 1's handrail holds here too: you did not cause it, and you could not cure it. A substance use disorder can be fatal even in loved, supported lives; your boundaries, the naloxone that ran out, and the last argument are not the cause. The condition is.

Grieve in full — the person, the future you kept ready for them, and even the relief that your watch has ended, which can arrive beside sorrow and does not make you disloyal. The Death & Grief unit walks with you through losing someone and living after. If your own despair becomes danger, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, at any hour. You did enough, in the only sense that was ever yours: you loved a person with a dangerous condition, honestly, with your eyes open.

Words to know — The Family Side of Addiction

• Substance use disorder — a treatable health condition in which a person keeps using a substance despite serious harm and has great difficulty stopping.
• Enabling — shielding a person from the natural consequences of use, or supplying the means of use, so the condition continues undisturbed.
• Boundary — a rule about your own behavior that protects your home, money, children, and health, enforceable without the other person's cooperation.
• Household agreement — a written, dated, signed statement of what each person in a shared home will do, what happens if use resumes, and when it will be reviewed.
• Naloxone — a medicine that reverses an opioid overdose by restoring breathing; available at a Massachusetts pharmacy under the statewide standing order.
• Overdose — a medical emergency in which a substance overwhelms the body; in an opioid overdose, breathing slows, weakens, or stops.
• Standing order — a statewide order, issued under Mass. Gen. Laws ch. 94C, § 19B, that lets a pharmacist dispense naloxone without a personal prescription.
• Good Samaritan protection — the immunity in Mass. Gen. Laws ch. 94C, § 34A protecting a good-faith seeker of help for an overdose, and the person overdosing, from possession charges and related supervision violations based on evidence gained from seeking help.
• Safe storage — keeping medicines and substances locked up or stored up, away, and out of a child's sight and reach.

Myths vs facts — The Family Side of Addiction

• Myth: If I loved them enough, I could make them stop. Fact: A substance use disorder is a health condition. Love matters — for connection and help reaching treatment — but it cannot perform treatment, and failure to cure is not failure to love.
• Myth: Giving money is kinder than refusing. Fact: Cash that becomes a substance feeds the condition and removes the pressure toward help. Help in kind — a meal, a ride to intake — protects the person without funding the use.
• Myth: A firm boundary means I have given up on them. Fact: A boundary governs your behavior, not their worth. Families here keep the door open to the person and to treatment while closing it to money, use in the home, and impaired childcare.
• Myth: If I call 911 during an overdose, I will get my loved one arrested for possession. Fact: Mass. Gen. Laws ch. 94C, § 34A protects the good-faith caller and the person overdosing from possession charges and related supervision violations based on evidence gained from seeking help — while leaving trafficking and distribution charges untouched.
• Myth: A parent who has a substance use disorder will automatically lose their children. Fact: The condition alone is a health matter; concern turns on impact — whether the child's needs are met and the child is safe.

Think it through — The Family Side of Addiction

The situation: Rosa's adult son, Daniel, has an opioid use disorder. This month Rosa has given him cash "for his phone," told his employer he had the flu on a morning he could not be woken properly, and agreed he can move back home with no written terms because "family doesn't do contracts." Last night Daniel's friend overdosed at a party and survived because someone there had naloxone. Rosa asks what this unit would have her change.

Walk it through: (1) The frame (Part 1): Rosa did not cause Daniel's condition and cannot cure it — but the delivery of her love is hers to change. (2) Enabling vs helping (Part 2): cash that can convert, and a lie that erases a consequence, are enabling; the same love delivered as a phone bill paid directly, a meal, and a ride to an assessment is helping. (3) Boundaries (Part 3): moving home deserves a short written household agreement — sober home, no use on the property, what happens if use resumes, a review date — stated once, calmly, before the move. (4) Readiness (Part 4): Rosa can get naloxone at a pharmacy today under the statewide standing order, learn the overdose signs, and know that § 34A protects the 911 call. The kit only works in the home that has one.

Cases & codes to study — The Family Side of Addiction

This unit teaches no separate court case; its study materials are the codes below, read with the Robinson v. California case in the Addictions unit, which explains why a substance use disorder is treated as a health condition rather than a status to punish.

The law itself — read the real words

• Mass. Gen. Laws ch. 94C, § 34A (Mass. Gen. Laws) — a person who in good faith seeks medical assistance for someone experiencing a drug-related overdose, and the person experiencing it, shall not be charged with possession under § 34 or found in violation of probation, pretrial release, or parole conditions on evidence gained from seeking help; trafficking, distribution, and possession-with-intent charges are not prevented; a good-faith right to receive, possess, and administer naloxone is confirmed. Read it: https://malegislature.gov/Laws/GeneralLaws/PartI/TitleXV/Chapter94C/Section34A
• Mass. Gen. Laws ch. 94C, § 19B (Mass. Gen. Laws) — requires a statewide standing order authorizing any licensed pharmacist to dispense an opioid antagonist such as naloxone, and protects good-faith prescribing, dispensing, and administration. Read it: https://malegislature.gov/Laws/GeneralLaws/PartI/TitleXV/Chapter94C/Section19B

Where to read the real thing, free: Massachusetts Legislature (https://malegislature.gov) for state laws; Massachusetts Department of Public Health on mass.gov (https://www.mass.gov) for naloxone and overdose guidance.

Try this — The Family Side of Addiction

• ☐ Sort five recent actions into "enabling" and "helping" using Part 2's two questions.
• ☐ Choose one boundary — money, housing, babysitting, or a vehicle — and write it in one calm sentence you could say once and keep.
• ☐ Get naloxone at a pharmacy under the statewide standing order, and tell another adult in the home where it is kept.
• ☐ List the overdose signs from Part 4 from memory, then check them against the Department of Public Health's published signs.
• ☐ Write down two safe adults for any child in your home, and the plan you will rehearse with that child.

Resources to keep — The Family Side of Addiction

• 911 — if a person shows signs of an overdose, cannot be woken, or is in immediate danger.
• SAMHSA National Helpline: 1-800-662-4357 — free, confidential treatment referrals for individuals and families, 24 hours.
• Poison Control: 1-800-222-1222 — guidance for a poisoning concern.
• 988 (call or text) — Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, any time.
• Massachusetts Substance Use Helpline — helplineMA.org — statewide public resource for treatment and recovery services; free and confidential.
• Massachusetts Bureau of Substance Addiction Services (BSAS) — mass.gov — the bureau overseeing prevention, treatment, and recovery services.
• Al-Anon Family Groups — al-anon.org — mutual support for people affected by someone else's drinking.
• Nar-Anon Family Groups — nar-anon.org — a fellowship for those affected by someone else's addiction.
• Free Pathways Guide — this school's guide to turning free study into real credentials at no cost (in the Topic Library).

What you earned / what's next — The Family Side of Addiction

✅ The Family Side of Addiction complete (quiz score 80% or higher): You can state what is and is not yours to carry, sort enabling from helping, set and keep a boundary about money, housing, babysitting, or a vehicle, get naloxone under the statewide standing order and respond to an overdose as the Department of Public Health teaches, outline child safety and the honest DCF distinction, and name support that exists for you.

Your certificate

Minister Destiny Testimony Schools Certificate of Completion — The Family Side of Addiction

This certificate is presented by Muslim Ordained Minister Destiny Marie Morgan

Awarded to: ______________________________ (write your name here after you download — your name is never collected or stored by this school)

Date completed: ______________

Congratulations. You learned to love a person without feeding a condition — to keep the door open and the boundary firm at the same time. That is some of the hardest, kindest work a family ever does, and you did not look away from it. — Minister Destiny Marie Morgan

This is a certificate of educational completion from Minister Destiny Testimony Schools. It is not a state license, a government certification, or legal training for representing anyone.

What's next: Return to the Topic Library for your next Year 1 Foundations unit.

Sources

• Getting Naloxone from a Pharmacy or Store, and Frequently Asked Questions About Naloxone — Massachusetts Department of Public Health, via mass.gov (https://www.mass.gov/info-details/getting-naloxone-from-a-pharmacy-or-store) (https://www.mass.gov/info-details/frequently-asked-questions-faqs-about-naloxone) — rescue kits at pharmacies; the standing order serves as the prescription; no restrictions on who can receive naloxone.
• Take Steps to Lower Your Overdose Risk, and How to Reverse an Overdose — Massachusetts Department of Public Health / Bureau of Substance Addiction Services, via mass.gov (https://www.mass.gov/doc/take-steps-to-lower-your-overdose-risk/download) (https://www.mass.gov/service-details/how-to-reverse-an-overdose) — the Department's published overdose signs and naloxone administration.
• Bureau of Substance Addiction Services — Massachusetts Department of Public Health, via mass.gov (https://www.mass.gov/orgs/bureau-of-substance-addiction-services) — BSAS oversees the statewide treatment and recovery system.
• Massachusetts Substance Use Helpline (https://helplinema.org/) — statewide, public, free and confidential treatment and recovery resource, available 24/7.
• National Helpline — Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (samhsa.gov) (https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/helplines/national-helpline) — SAMHSA National Helpline 1-800-662-4357.
• Al-Anon Family Groups (https://al-anon.org/) and Nar-Anon Family Groups (https://www.nar-anon.org/) — each fellowship's own description of itself.
• Psychology 2e — OpenStax (https://openstax.org/books/psychology-2e/pages/16-4-substance-related-and-addictive-disorders-a-special-case) — Section 16.4, syllabus anchor.
• Mass. Gen. Laws ch. 94C, § 34A (Mass. Gen. Laws) — immunity for seeking medical assistance for a drug-related overdose.
• Mass. Gen. Laws ch. 94C, § 19B (Mass. Gen. Laws) — statewide standing order for dispensing an opioid antagonist.

Your Progress — On Your Device Only — The Family Side of Addiction

• Learning outcomes: On completing this unit, the student can:
• state the family frame — you did not cause it, you cannot cure it, you can love the person without feeding the addiction
• distinguish enabling from helping with concrete examples: cash and erased consequences versus rides, meals, and an open door
• set a boundary about money, housing, babysitting, or a vehicle, state it once, keep it through testing, and outline a household agreement
• obtain naloxone under the statewide standing order, list the published overdose signs, and state the published response steps, including calling 911
• state the scope and limits of Mass. Gen. Laws ch. 94C, § 34A
• outline child safety — safe storage, safe adults, a rehearsed plan — and the distinction between a substance use disorder and neglect
• name Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, BSAS, the Massachusetts Substance Use Helpline, and SAMHSA's helpline as family support
• Study time: Approximately 1 hour — an estimate covering reading, activities, and the test. Students move at their own pace.
• Assessment: A 10-question test drawn only from this unit's lesson. 80% or higher passes and earns the unit certificate. Answers are not shown; your score is saved only in your own browser on this device, and retakes are allowed.
• Level: Topic Library — Year 1 (Foundations) · Adult school · working rank on completion path: Freshman → Sophomore.
• Version: Version 1.0 — October 2026.

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